Jul 01
Sutor Training
Sutor training is a type of three way sexual exploration involving a couple and a “Sutor”. The Sutor is usually a female helper and is not hired by the couple. She should receive no monetary payment for her services. She would be involved for her own edification and because it helps her improve her own personal skills in identifying erogenous zones, increasing her awareness of sexual & emotional feedback and practicing the application of her own skills as she desires.
This is a very informal sexual activity but there are basic rules.
- The Sutor is there to guide the couple as a whole, especially the female by sharing her experience in discovering the male body and it’s very different erogenous zones.
- The Sutor is usually older and more experienced but not always.
- The Sutor engages in the activity as a way to practice her own sexual skills, not for any financial compensation.
Below are a couple scenarios that I’ve experienced and enjoyed immensely.
#1 The Visitor:
In this scenario the sutor is not nude and therefore has no sexual contact with the couple. She’s not there to pleasure herself but to be a training assistant. This is a three way sexual activity with a male & female couple plus a Sutor.
The male is nude and the female is optionally nude or undressed as she desires. The male’s hands are usually bound (a simple wrist clasp) and he is usually blindfolded. His position is often horizontal on his back but he could be standing on a box or laying on some sort of table. The female is a Visitor in this scenario so she has no sexual contact with either the male or the sutor. Her position is to observe only. She can, however, stimulate herself if she desires but she must remain away from and have no direct contact with the male during the training.
The Sutor begins the training by touching the male in various places, observing his reaction and eliciting feedback about how each touch feels as a way to validate her perceptual awareness and show the female her progress. Beginning with the head and face, shoulders, chest, arms, parts of exposed back, torso, bum, inner thighs, legs, feet, genitalia etc. The intent is to point out that erogenous zones for men are usually quite different than for women. Having done this myself I’ll say that my zones tend to be my face, my back, sometimes ear tips, my feet and my genitalia including perineum area and scrotum.
The Sutor then begins stimulating or massaging the identified erogenous zones to help relax the male, noting his state of arousal and pointing it out to the female visitor. She can then begin sexual touching beginning with her mouth. The first position is to straddle the male from the head, working his entire erection down her throat, using her tongue and throat to stimulate the penis. The second position is to engage him from between his legs, showing the female breathing techniques that lead to full throat penetration. She then usually moves on to manual penis stimulation with her hands. Applying oils only (no lube) for the “upstroke” and the “downstroke”. It’s then optional but quite usual for her to masturbate him through rushing, raging to orgasm & ejaculation. Often the female partner joins in masturbation if she desires.
#2 The Wedding Night
This comes from a very old tradition in Old English culture where a couple had an “Assistant” on their wedding night to ensure their greatest pleasure possible. The term “Sutor” comes from this old practice but has become much more refined over time.
In this scenario the Sutor is a voluntary assistant to the couple’s lovemaking. In old times it was often the sister of the bride. However, the Bride’s Sister tradition is no longer considered an acceptable practice in most cultures.
The tradition began when many of the Sutors found great value in being part of, and lending a helping hand to the couple because of the opportunity to learn about sexuality from an external perspective, without the “pressure” or performance. In this role the Sutor supplies any needed additional stimulation the couple might desire, including visual stimulation in the form of masturbation while they watch, using her fingers or a well lubed fist for either vagina or anus during their lovemaking activities, stimulating overall body massage, flailing their skin with a modest whip for extra stimulation, penis massage while the bride watches or masturbates herself, visual stimulation via fingering, dildoing, or even fisting either of the couple while the other watches and masturbates.
Additionally the Sutor is there to provide the couple with encouragement if needed and if she is skilled enough, to point out if/when one of the couple passes on an opportunity to further explore their sexual desire with their new spouse.
In this role it’s not traditional but optional that the Sutor be directly involved in the couple’s lovemaking exercise. In my experience it’s not a good idea for the Sutor to become sexually involved herself. In fact it’s good practice for her to learn how to prevent her own “expression” of sexuality as a way to further develop her own awareness.
In our more modern times we can take what was learned and apply it to a normal couples sexual activities as an enhancement and adjunct or as an enjoyable sexual awareness exercise.
#3 Sudor Slut
In this role the sudor is a couple’s plaything. She is present to engage in the sexual activity they desire including providing visual stimulation for either participant, sharing her experience and awareness of other people’s sexual expressions, noting missed opportunities for exploration (sensing the couple’s feelings) and providing additional sexual exploration by suggesting things she has experienced in the past. The sutor can and does engage in activity with the couple as they desire or accept her suggestions. One of my most vivid memories is watching a sutor masturbate in such a sensual way, even my partner was impressed. She would wrap her hand around her pubic bone making a fist and “bobble” herself in a way I’d never seen before. More importantly was her ability to present a field of sexual excitement while doing so. She invited my partner to explore her vagina and showed her how she was able to pop her hand deep into her own vagina to just past her wrist very quickly in a single motion. She also showed us a double hand penetration she enjoyed involving both of our hands. Male on the ouside wrapping his hand around the female’s and using a “crow” or “dove” penetration method. I could hardly believe how excited she got having this done to her.
At the time my parther and I were in a bondage group exploring large penetration techniques and sexual presentation. There was a small theatre nearby that allowed people to present themselves in a truly “English” way.
When we asked where she learned these activities she stated she was part of a group of people who spent time developing an awareness of their own sexuality. Basically she had been group masturbating for a few years with a small group of like minded people. “The experience helps us practice enjoying our own selves as individuals, encourages our sexual independence, helps us practice taking responsibility for our own feelings rather than depending on a partner for satisfaction.”
Unfinished…
-Tom
